Ven Thubten Chodron was in Singapore recently and gave a serial of talks which I benefited a lot. I missed one of the talk and deeply regretted it as I found gems in each of her talks.
Below are notes I took during the talks which I hope may be useful for readers.
1. People want to love but their anger is pushing others away.
2. If you have a plan that is just one more way you know that things won’t turn out as you planed.
3. Accept reality; accept what is and not what if. Have an open mind when you approach new things / teaching etc.
4. Learn to dance and laugh with the problems.
5. Let go of how you think things should be like.
6. Self-pity and being upset is a complete waste of time. We do not know when we will die; spend what limited time you have wisely.
7. Self-pity and critical self-talk only feed our ego and sense of self important. We think that we are so important that we can influence things. Self-pity always center on me, me, and me.
8. When we are having critical and unjustified self-talk, we have to ask ourselves if it is that way, if it is true. E.g. “No one love me”. Really? Really there is no one in the world who doesn’t love you? How can you be so sure about this? Even if no one love you, the Buddha love you.
9. Anger and delusion burn up merits.
10. Help others like hand and foot. When there is thorn in the foot, the hand will remove the thorns immediately.
11. If we are attached or crave for a single thing thinking that it can bring us happiness then we are narrowing our vision and thinking that nothing can bring us happiness. But if we drop this thinking we will open up to a wider view of possibility to love and enjoy the company of whoever we come into contact with.
12. We do our meditation thinking that everyone want happiness and do not want suffering. That we depend on the kindness of others in order to live in this world, we are unable to live alone. Others do things that I cannot do or I don’t want to do so that I can do the things I can or want to do. In this way, they are kind to me.
13. Taking up precepts and practice mean no double standard and hypocrisy.