Thursday, April 29, 2010

Awareness

I was nearly overcame with doubts this morning while going for my exercise. Out of nowhere I suddenly felt myself being worthless and I made a wrong choice by quitting my job and go solo.

Luckily my meditation training allowed me to catch those thinking and emotion in time so that I did not stayed too long in those negative thoughts.

I re-framed my thinking and is feeling much better now.

Sometime what we need is to really see things as it is and allow whatever feeling and emotion to rise up and just notice it.

Thumbs up for meditation.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Acharya Godwin Samararatne

Here is another example of how the Deva 'helped' with my Dhamma training.

I must admit that I do not understand what Acharya Godwin wrote in his book "Meditation in Everyday Life" when I first read it. I was of the impression that his teaching was difficult to understand and apply.

Then I had my realization after my road trip and was fortunate enough to came across his books again (The Gentle Way of Buddhist Meditation). Now the timing was just right for Acharya Godwin's teaching to sunk into my coconut head.

Suddenly everything makes sense. On how:
1) We create suffering by having expectation. This was what I realized on my road trip.
2) How we create stories; being the prosecutor, judge, victim and defendant all in our head.

and many many more teaching that benefited me a lot.

I am going to quote one paragraph from his book (The Gentle Way of Buddhist Meditation) and I will suggest strongly that readers of this blog find out more about Acharya Godwin's teaching at:
http://www.godwin-home-page.net/

A Wiki page on his life can be found here.

The Gentle Way of Buddhist Meditation

Topic: Emotions

"It is funny that this is how we use thoughts. Now, as we all know, from the time that we wake up in the morning up to the time that we go to sleep there are continuous thoughts going through our mind which never stop. If you become aware, if you become mindful of the thoughts that go through your mind, then you'll realize that most of the time the way we use thoughts is in this habit of giving plusses and minuses. So when you see this clearly, then the power that we have given to them may become less.

Then you realized that sometimes it is just an innocent thought that comes: Maybe the other person doesn't like me; maybe the other person is giving me minuses; maybe the other person think that I'm silly or ridiculous, and so on. So if you are mindful you'll realize it is just a thoughts that you're having; who knows whether that thought corresponds to any reality?

There is a strong imaginary aspect in our thoughts. This imaginary aspect and the realist are two different things. So with awareness, with mindfulness, exploring, investigating, this may become clear to us and this will help us to work with and handle such thoughts, and their power will become less."

Management and the Dhamma

I believe in Deva. Now don't get me wrong thinking that I believe in a God-like entity but recent events does make this belief stronger. You see, whenever I have a problem somehow or rather I will come upon the solution in surprising ways and solve the issue.

In case, the readers have some misunderstanding about belief in Deva in Buddhism, please refer to this article by Venerable K. Sri Dhammananda Maha Thera on Belief in Deities (Devas)

One example is like the article below; I used to have a problem with people not getting back to me (either email or SMS), it make me think about all sorts of things. Maybe the person was busy, maybe she does not like me etc.

The article, while management based, did answer my question.
(1) That lack of respond bred insecurity;
(2) We fill up and create stories of why people don't respond.

What is so Dhamma about this is how we use our head on such situation when people do not respond to us.

It is interesting that Dhamma is all around us and all we need to do is listen and observe.

Below is a summary of the article, you can find the full article here.

3 Steps for Addressing the Uncertainty of Silence

Silence is the worst kind of feedback — it is ambiguous and generic. When you don't know why someone hasn't called you back or responded to your email, it is all too easy to assume the worst. Here are three steps to take if you're getting the silent treatment:

1. Accept that you don't know. Acknowledge that you don't know what the silence really means. Resist the temptation to fill in the blanks with your own insecurities.
2. Ask for clarity. Reach out to the person and ask him to tell you why he's not responding.
3. Believe the answer. Whatever the response — he was too busy, he forgot — don't read between the lines. Accept it as truth and move on.